But Sometimes, It Feels Fragile And Useless — My relationship with my own body involves several layers. Some of these connections are obvious. E.g., pornography usage can increase body dysmorphia. Mainstream entertainment still relies heavily on sex appeal. Scrolling through Instagram will likely cause one to feel bad about their body too. Last time I focused on Function…

Minorities And Internalized Self Hatred — “Why do I judge her in a more critical light than any other, becoming enraged when she does not measure up?” — Audre Lorde “Who taught you to hate yourself from the top of your head to the soles of your feet?” — Malcolm X "That woman is misogynistic, that…

- Stephen King (everybody knows…) — I love to display my bookcase like an Instagram model crafting conveniently flattering poses. His physique is fabulous, but no one can flex that many muscle groups for extended periods. But isn’t it an eye candy? All therapists do it. I’m proud of my mind. I’ve put a lot of…

Every Ken Can Be Kenough! — I’ll try not to spoil it, but honestly, it’d be like spoiling Oppenheimer — “Hey, in case you didn’t know, the Manhattan Project was successful, and the bomb built by Oppenheimer devastated Hiroshima and Nagasaki instantly killing some 100k (including women and children), ultimately killing as many as 200k, which…

Trigger Warnings For Men With Fragile Egos — (may contain spoilers) Snowflake men, be warned. Look at your hero, Shapiro, burning dolls in protest. That’s how powerful a trigger can be to insecure men. I thought the Barbie movie would be about her breaking out of fantasy land. I was wrong; it is all about bursting Ken’s little…

Every Day, Discoverin’ Something Brand New — Eternal truths are settling in slowly in my mid-thirties psyche. I feel I’m only starting to understand this important principle: My body is beautiful. My body is a miracle, a privilege, a temple, a sanctuary, a vessel, an opportunity, and a blessing. My body is beautiful. Two mindsets are helping…

A Prompt With Surprising Responses — I saw this prompt as a meme on a facebook page, and I was intrigued by the question and responses. I want to share my answers and extend the prompt to anyone who can benefit from the exercise. Here is the original prompt, verbatim: You meet your 18-year-old self. You’re allowed…

It Doesn’t Mean I’m Not An Addict — I am one week into a tolerance break from Cannabis. I am feeling bouts of positivity, confidence and happiness in sobriety. Withdrawals exist but are not as potent physiologically as other drugs. Depending on other factors, your body generally adjusts in as little as one week. My psychological addiction is…

I’m Ok(ish) With One Side — I feel impulses to hurt, and sometimes even harm other men. I’ve been posting more frequently exploring my combative tendencies. My aggression is specifically targeted at men and softened with dimensions of gender, race, sexual identity, class and etc. I must first separate the idea of hurt from harm. Physical…