What we’ve been doing in the short term is the highest predictor of our behavior today
If I died right now, the coroner would have a pretty good idea of how I’ve lived my life so far.
The data will be extremely accurate about the last 90 days.
They’ll know substances I’ve been using, what I’ve been eating and how much I’ve been moving around.
Every moment in time is a drop of water in a river that has already been moving a certain direction.
The best way to gauge our momentum is analyzing the current trends for the past 90 days.
Then we move on to more complex trends, such as dynamics that have been established since childhood trauma occurred.
As I sit and write this, I’m proud of the last 90 days.
Even if last night wasn’t my shiniest moment.
One Month Of Resilience and Relapse
On the night of the 25th, I celebrated one month.
It was a few days after I celebrated my 4th work anniversary. The 25th represented my last vesting period for stock bonuses.
I was celebrating all kids going to school full time for the first time since they were born.
It had been exactly a month since a friend contacted me and we started chatting every day. The support was monumental.
I celebrated one month without using pornography.
I woke up at night and broke the streak.
The Body Is Adjusting, But The Root Is In The Mind
Anyone battling with addiction has heard about physiological VS psychological addictions.
Substance and habits can create a strong physiological reaction in our hormones imbalance. Withdrawal symptoms. They are very real. Night sweats, tremors, fatigue, bad moods.
The stronger the substance or how long the habit was sustained will correlate with the intensity of withdrawals.
Once we get past the breaking points, the body settles more. The more adjusted we become, the less power the addiction still has.